Depression can be a stepping stone to the next higher version of ourselves, and, as someone who has experienced depression in the past, this was the case for me. You can click here for a quick post about reframing depression and the opportunity it affords someone if the message it has can be heard.
“The word ‘depressed’ is spoken phonetically as ‘deep rest.’ We can view depression not as a mental illness, but on a deeper level, as a profound (and very misunderstood) state of deep rest, entered into when we are completely exhausted by the weight of our own identity.“
– Jeff Foster
Not that depression is restful – it’s not. It can be deeply painful.
But have you ever felt exhausted by who you thought you had to be – by the weight of your own identity? By the false self that has been a heavy facade to carry?
It’s unnecessary, and it’s time to put it down.
Have you ever heard anyone say, “You have no reason to be depressed”? Unbelievably, some people do.
You have no reason to be depressed because you have:
a place to live
[fill in the blank and I’ve heard it]
The thing is, depression doesn’t have anything to with the items listed above. And saying this to someone who is experiencing true pain in the form of depression is shaming and can make things worse.
I wonder if people who say, “You have nothing to be depressed about,” are people who cannot tolerate their own painful emotions and therefore try to push away someone else’s painful emotions because they are intolerable.
My husband and I have been crisis counseling in one form or another for many years and have seen a lot of pain.
If you’ve never experienced the deep pain of mental, emotional, spiritual suffering know that it does exist and is very real to those whom it exists for.
Believe others when they say they are hurting. Believe them and support them as best you can when they reach out for help.
We recently lost a beloved friend and our love goes out to his family.